The first messages to send
No matter if you met someone on a dating app like Carimmat or somewhere on the street, messaging them is the next step in your relationship. And believe it or not, it's quite important, and especially very restrained ! Except that everyone is wondering "what are the first messages to send?". Since the way you start out can make or break your relationship, it's important to think carefully about what you're going to send. However, you don't have to worry. Soon, you'll know what to write in the first message you send and how to maintain a pleasant, warm conversation with someone you like.
The first message is the most important
Some time ago, on the FAQ of Carimmat, we had presented and prepared several "first messages" to use to help you make the first step. The goal is to maximize your chances of getting answers!
For those who haven't seen it, here is a small excerpt here:
- Would you rather go to Sweden or South Africa?
- Which cooking specialty do you prefer?
- Would you rather have breakfast in bed or brunch in a restaurant?
- What do you prefer: touching, looking, smelling, listening or tasting?
- Shower or bath?
- What would be your last wish?
- And find more examples here...
Send him short messages
I think this is the mistake a lot of people make... Sending long copy/paste messages between conversations to feel unique in their approach... but no! Everyone has done it before you, and believe me, the person in front of you on their phone knows it too. Also, long messages can be overwhelming. Try to keep your message to one or two lines at most when interacting. Avoid sending paragraphs and try not to send a message more than once in a row without a response. While you should make sure to keep his attention, you should not force him to read the paper while he looks at his phone.
Ask questions to get to know him or her
Take an interest in the person you are talking to! Do you like to be asked questions and to be interested in you? It's the same for your interlocutor !
Be sure to ask open-ended questions to move the discussion forward. To explain, open-ended questions are those that cannot be answered with a "yes" or "no". After the answer, you can also offer to share information about yourself. You can ask questions like:
- Where did you grow up?
- What do you do in life?
- What is the most beautiful trip you have ever been on?
- How many brothers and sisters do you have?
- What are your passions?
